Monday, April 11, 2011


I want to share something I shared a couple weeks ago with our "unity prayer circle" we have before Sunday morning service. But first I want to share a card with you...

Living a life in "Bliss" with my Heavenly Father.

I have been really praying for clarity in my life... in regards to relational battles. I really never thought of conflicts with friends or family as relational battles, but it was made so clear to me. I feel like this is something all of us might deal with, but probably women more than men. I think we care way more than we should about being accepted by our peers... we can be our own worst enemy. Am I wrong about this???

Anyway, what was revealed to me, more or less, was why do I waste my breath defending myself or proving my point when it is just a distraction and a waste of time, not to mention it zaps my strength that could be used for God's glory. I can see now that if I stop trying to be “right” and choose to live righteous then God will give me perfect peace.

It is true that trying to defend myself from blame will only leave me with bitterness. It is also true that no matter what anyone says about me or does to me will never stop God’s perfect plan and promises in my life… I have to remember… it is His business… He is my Defender. It is NOW that I will walk away from relational war and wrath and into a life filled with peace. I am determining to fight for the things worth fighting for… winning souls for God’s Kingdom.

In Romans 12:18-19 it says …If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written: “It is mine to avenge; I will repay,” says the Lord.

I pray God will give us the wisdom to steer away from relational traps set by the enemy to distract us. I pray for the Holy Spirit to rise up in us and take control, giving us the words to speak when we may be faced with a relational war. I pray we never again exhaust ourselves with useless arguments. I pray that we will keep our eyes focused on God’s big picture and push past any relationship that can hinder us from being all God has called us to be. I pray God will fill us with His grace and love and boldness to deal with any difficult relationships we may encounter. In Jesus’ name.

The whole chapter of II Samuel 22 is so great, but verse 24 fits so well with this thought of relational battles… I have been blameless before him and have kept myself from sin.

Remember there is no relationship in this world that is worth more than your relationship with the King of Kings.

No matter what the conflict or with who the conflict may be I have the choice of how I will handle it. If it takes at least two people to have a relational war, and I am not going to battle, then there will be no war. “A soft answer turns away wrath.” Proverbs 15:1… the battle will stop with me because I choose to be blameless in God’s eyes. I have no control over what anyone else will choose to do, at this point it is all about my heart being in tune with God’s heart.

An after thought:  Sometimes I need to bite my tongue to keep my tongue from biting others.

with a grateFUL HEART, carin